Monday, December 01, 2014

My Last Day on Earth

If someone handed me a microphone and put me in front of an audience on the last day of my life, what would I say to the world?

Let go of the past. 
Free yourself by forgiving those you believe have wronged you. Forgive yourself, too. You're only human after all. Nobody and I mean NOBODY is perfect. By holding on to resentment, regret, guilt, and anger, you are holding yourself back from living the best kind of life.

Be positive. 
All those negative thoughts are just like beating yourself daily. You gain nothing by being negative. You gain energy and freedom by being positive.

Try everything and keep an open mind.
You never know what you're missing out on by being skittish. Of course, don't be violent or cruel. That's not positive.

Love yourself exactly the way you are right now.
No excuses. Whatever you perceive as your flaws are nothing more than the results of your experiences and the coping skills you've developed to well, cope. If you don't like the results, hating them won't help. Start loving yourself and then you will be able to make the changes you want.

Be brave. 
This world is not always friendly, but hiding in a hole scared of what might happen is a crappy way to live. Notice I didn't say "don't be afraid" because that is stupid to say. Of course we are going to be afraid at times. Being afraid is natural and hard-wired into our brains. It's how we survive, BUT we shouldn't let fear rule our lives or make our decisions for us. Be brave and do what you need to do despite the fear. And fear will have less power over you.

Live in the present. 

Enjoy the little things. 

Don't angst over "success" or money. 

Love the one you're with. 

Be kind. 

Embrace your emotions, but don't let them rule you. 
So this goes with the fear thing. It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling: angry, resentful, sad, anxious, happy, proud, wounded. Where we get into trouble is when we feed those emotions and keep them around longer than they need to be. Think of emotions as our barometer. They tell us something about our environment, yes, but actually they tell us more about ourselves than anyone or anything out there in the world. Emotions are our reactions to events, people, things. The issue isn't "He/She/It/That made me feel fill-in-the-blank"; it's "I feel this way in response to he/she/it/that because...." Find out why you feel that way and you will know a little more about yourself, and therefore be one step closer to your heart's desire: to be happy.

Focus on the thing, not the want of the thing.
Whatever it is you want in life, stop focusing on the DESIRE for something and start focusing on the something. You want to be a writer? Write. You want to be happy? Be happy. Easier said than done, you say? Maybe, but I guarantee focusing on the desire and not the object will bog you down in woe-is-me mentality and ruin your damn life. Guaranteed.

Kick perfection's ass to the curb.
And finally, I would say that there is no such thing as perfect, so strip away the idea that there is some pinnacle of existence, the idea that everything will be just right when...fill in the blank. Your life is a master piece, unique, beautiful, sometimes messy, sometimes frantic, sometimes painful, sometimes blissful. Be okay with that and don't take a single solitary moment for granted.

Peace out.

What would YOU say to the world on the last day of YOUR life?

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